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Multi Dimensional Model 

overcomming shame

many survivors struggle with guilt and shame.

One of the most significant steps I made was breaking through the shame barrier.

    most survivor sites emphasise that it was not our fault.- it was not our fault.

one analogy I found helpful

   is that if I'm walking down the street

and I see someone drop a $50 bill  I run ahead and give it to the one who droped it.

It isn't mine.

     likewise the guilt and shame is not ours.

    the guilt and shame belongs to the abuser - hand it back.


  abusers typically dumped their guilt on us

     but it is not ours

   it is the abusers guilt - hand it back

    or imagine you are handing it back.




Surviving to thriving

Mike Lew wrote a book "Victims no longer "

.we were victims of a crime against us but we are not victims any longer.

We are survivors.

     Our journey begins with our survival strategies.


Get as many survival strategies as you find helpful to you.

We are going on a journey of recovery - so let's gather plenty of supplies

         and resources.

Surviving to thriving is a dimension of it's own and worthy of development.


Progression of therapy


      the aim of this dimension is to attempt to outline the phases or stages of  recovery

      noting there is no single model of recovery.

           I invented the   Grid of Issues

             with a view of expressing the randomness of issues in that there is no set path from issue to issue.

                  and in doing so to validate this experience many of us have talked about.

      Whilst there is no set road to recovery, and we all walk out own road to recovery

      our therapists do use various models

      and so I have attempted to record those I am aware of both to inform

         and to discuss my own frustration that some helplines over emphasise phase 1 (safety and stabolisation)

         of Phases of Trauma Recovery  

          and I found when one see a new therapist we often go over narrative therapy again struggling to progress beyond

             an introductory level.

          It has seemed to me that there is a need for a certificate of completion of the introductory level,

             and that a therapist or certifier is satisfied we are safe, stabolised and have strategies and coping mechanisms

                to progress to the next stage of recovery.

           In particular if we are ready to access the original traumatised memory and release the trauma using relevant trauma release techniques.

                In other words, the aim of this page if to refer to higher level  modes of recovery to progress from the introductory level.

          I have written this page partly to document what I have found useful

             and to provide access to aspects of our possable journey of recovery for motovated and resourced survivors

               looking for more advanced stages.


          on the other hand many survivors do not want to access the memories or the emotions. that is ok.


          likewise it is fine to remain in phase 1  to establish safety and to stabolise.


                we all certainly need coping mechanisms


           it is our journey   

            sometimes we meet at certain points

             other times our journey is different.